Autism

"Ben X" and Bullying

Published March 03, 2009 @ 04:00PM PT

a teenage boy sits in front of a row of school lockers, one of them open and a backpack and lunch bag litter the ground; he holds his head in his handsThe Belgian movie Ben X got a mixed review from from the Herald (WA). The main theme of the movie is school bullying of an AS teen. The review notes:

The melodrama of this is heavy, but Balthazar has a cause. He also wrote the novel the film is based on, and was inspired by a true story of a 17-year-old autistic boy from Brussels who committed suicide after being bullied.

Bullying is an enormous problem in schools and elsewhere; difference is rarely treated kindly by the mainstream. Bullying can cause mental health problems such as loss of self-esteem and severe depression. People on the spectrum may be vulnerable to bullying in more than one way: because they are different from "the norm," because they may not understand the bulling is happening until a later time, because they may not be able to communicate that bulling is happening, and because they may not be believed about the bullying or have appropriate action taken if they do report it (among other possible issues).

Dawn Prince-Hughes writes poignantly about her bulling experiences in her book Songs of the Gorilla Nation,

"People would corner me in the bathroom and force my head into the toilet, slam me into my locker, and throw trash at me in the hall. They hit me in the head with books and spit on me. They defaced my locker. They took my food away. One of the senior students made a sign with a derogatory word on it and hung it around my neck. I didn't take it off. To me, the words people shouted at me, their thoughts about me being crazy, the ways they treated me, were all as real as the sign, and I couldn't take them off. I was swimming in a sea of ugliness, hate, and intolerance; what good would it do to remove a cardboard sign. I didn't have the energy."

Bullying isn't just reserved for so-called "peers" either--teachers also may participate in the bullying. Also in Songs of the Gorilla Nation Dawn Prince Hughes relates being so abused by a teacher that she began going into a dissociative state when the teacher interacted with her. She says, "I never told my parents about it. It didn't occur to me that I could communicate about things that happened. I simply wasn't able to understand that use of words." Unfortunately, actions like Wendy Portillo's are not as rare as one might hope.

Regardless of whether the movie "Ben X" is worth viewing, the issue of school bullying is definitely worth examining.

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  1. David  Leafgreen

    A good start would be sentencing anyone convicted of bullying that leads to suicide to life in prison without parole.  Bullying is a choice made on the part of the bully.  In my dream world, the victim would be allowed to do anything he or she wanted to to the perpetrators, up to and including death.  As it is now, bullies get off without even a slap on the wrist, and if that weren't bad enough, some even end up being your boss.  At the very least, any victim of bullying needs to be allowed a humane (I don't mean institutionalization) alternative to the situation.  I can say that often the victim of bullying does not see the point of saying anything because that could make it even worse and those in charge are seen as unable to do anything anyway.  And you don't leave bullying behind when you leave school, but at least at work, you have the option of quitting.  I had to take this option on a job I had for almost ten years. 

    Posted by David Leafgreen on 03/04/2009 @ 12:28AM PT

  2. "People would corner me in the bathroom and force my head into the toilet, slam me into my locker, and throw trash at me in the hall. They hit me in the head with books and spit on me. They defaced my locker. They took my food away. One of the senior students made a sign with a derogatory word on it and hung it around my neck. I didn't take it off. To me, the words people shouted at me, their thoughts about me being crazy, the ways they treated me, were all as real as the sign, and I couldn't take them off. I was swimming in a sea of ugliness, hate, and intolerance; what good would it do to remove a cardboard sign. I didn't have the energy."

    I didn't have the energy.

    This is really sad.

    Posted by M B on 03/04/2009 @ 06:25AM PT

  3. Tim Dyson

    Sad, yet frightening common. When I was in school, I was bullied mercilessly. Although luckly for me I am physically strong and tall and always have been, so I was only very rarely physically assulted, I was often so tired that I would not wish to participate in sports and phisical activities. This lead to a kind of social isolation a I would sit on the side lines and not join in on the games that friends and family played, not to mention the fact I was always on guard and so would always be looking for the next bard. This meant that I would often push people away who were just trying to be my friends out of fear of them turning.

    In my humble opinion Bullying is one of the greatest threats to those on the spectrum that there has ever been. "Regardless of whether the movie "Ben X" is worth viewing, the issue of school bullying is definitely worth examining." I would say exterminating not examining.

    Posted by Tim Dyson on 03/08/2009 @ 06:49PM PT

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  5. Gary Lee

    This movie interests me on two issues.Autism and Aspergers as my son is autistic and my wife & I work with children with these conditions.Secondly the 'bullying' aspect. For those of you affected by it or want to make a difference, I encourage you all to check out the work of an inspirational individual featured in this video:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXwgJDmHd3c

    Posted by Gary Lee on 03/04/2009 @ 10:39AM PT

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